The Stigma of the Rich: Does Success in Life Mean Failure in Relationships?

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There's a very real phenomenon in this world where people with more money are often judged and sometimes even alienated. There's an actual stigma out there—created by not only resentment and jealousy but also by this widespread notion that people who attract and accumulate money are somehow doing something wrong. As if they are cheating the system or doing something unethical to be a success in life.

So this begs the question—is money worth having if it means it will repel people? Does it alienate you?

This whole idea of money being somehow tied to unethical behavior is an interesting one, and it is a myth that has certainly rooted its place somewhere in the American psyche—and indeed, the world at large. For centuries, people who could not or did not want to see another idea of what money represents have perpetuated this lie.

It gets passed down to growing children and we soak up this idea as we age, imprinting it on the computer of the mind. Your beliefs really do create your reality and decide your level of success in life. They define what is real and what is not real in your life, and many who learn to think outside the box find that building the strength to change your beliefs directly changes your reality and your life.

Since we are grown, thinking adults now, we have the ability to decide what is true rather than simply rely on every truth society has given us. And one great truth that I've found in my life is that wealth is not inherently evil.

In fact, the people who create wealth and success in their lives are often the ones that create the most value—after all, what power does money have but the power we give it by allowing it to represent value?

And not only that but those with money have the ability, and often the desire, to give more. There's no reason to hoard when they have so much, while someone with a scarcity mindset must cling to all they have. In fact, many find the key to success in life is finding how you can better serve others.

Here's the answer to the original question though—will you be alienated by choosing a different belief than that of modern society? My question in response to this question is: why do you care?

Listen, humans are judgmental—especially ignorant humans. No matter what you do in this world, someone is going to judge you and talk about you and perhaps even cause you problems. This holds true whether you have money or don't have money, and it is likely a reality in your life right now.

95% of the world will never change. They'll never grow personally or strive for a better life. They'll never reach for success. Look around you—are these 95% of people actually happy? Will they ever be?

What you should concern yourself with is being part of the 5% that pushes for a greater world and a greater existence on Earth—the 5% that honestly strives to create value for others. Their contribution is often even contagious, spreading to others and causing more givers and creators of value on this Earth. Their legacy lives on even when they are gone.

These are often the people who attract and accumulate wealth.

Don't let other people steer your thoughts about what you are and what you want in this world. They know nothing about you, and in almost all cases, those who judge you are working from a set of information that is very limited in scope. These are the people in the world that you really should not worry about—they will always find a way to resent someone and will always be miserable. They very rarely have any real success in life.

Find the truth for yourself. Don't listen to me or anyone else about what is good and what is not. Take the time to think and to grow as a person, decide what brings value to this world, and then decide if it is worth having a part of.

But never forget that best relationships in this world are never built on judgment and certainly not the amount of money—or lack thereof—in your bank account. It should be built on respect, trust, and common bonds. Anything less is not worth worrying yourself over.

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This article was published on 2010/11/05