What in the world does that mean? In our crazy busy world, I think we are all guilty at times of "getting through the day". Chugging along at top speed to get everything done, and not taking the time to truly live our OWN lives. We are so busy getting kids here and there, doing the work our bosses need done, running to the grocery store, the post office and taking the dog to the vet. We are getting dinner on the table, throwing laundry in, checking homework, running to the soccer game, leaving half way through to get to the other kids baseball game. Finally, the day is almost over. We have not stopped moving since 6:10 a.m., yet we have a sort of empty feeling inside. Grateful to lay our head on the pillow, a moment to think, to go through what will need to be accomplished tomorrow...
This doesn't sound real healthy does it? Where is the moment to daydream, the moment to have a walk and ponder the magnificence of the flowers that have begun to bloom, to play with the neighbors "puppy" that got to be a full grown dog without you noticing? These are the simple things that we need to do for ourselves.
Our society is seeing a tremendous increase in the number of people suffering with anxiety and panic. Why do you think that is? Some of it is due to true mental health issues, and some is due to the fact that we do not take care of our mental health. It is probably the last thing we think about in regards to our health. It you have a rash, you go to the dermatologist, allergies, the allergist, broken bone, orthopedic surgeon. When we are feeling overwhelmed, having anxiety which lead to panic attacks, we as a society generally do nothing. We push it to the side until it gets really, really bad. This is more than a little silly. Take the time to de-stress. It is really important to you and your family.
What is your favorite thing to do? Is it grabbing a few friends and heading to the coffee shop? How about riding you bike on the lakefront? Curling up in your favorite chair in the middle of the afternoon with a good book? Skiing, skydiving, painting that new picture that has been in your head for three years? Starting a new business? Whatever it is, it is your life after all. You can do anything you choose to do. You just have to be a little creative.
Once you decide that "I can't, I don't have time" will no longer be part of your vocabulary, you will be amazed at what you can do. If you take one half-hour each day, to "live your own life", you will be amazed at the transformation in every other aspect of your life. You will be more energized, more creative, you will be more organized and actually begin to enjoy some of those mundane tasks that you rush through each day. You will begin to realize what is important and what can wait.
When my kids were little we were out after the rain going on a "worm hunt". My neighbor poked her head over the fence and said, "You know, this is the important stuff in life. The "worm walk". I, of course, was feeling that little bit of guilt of having my house in moderate disarray. (O.K., it was an actual wreck at that point) But my wise neighbor told me, "You know, your kids are only little for so long. You have your whole life to clean your house." That was probably the most profound thing anyone has ever told me. I am not kidding. That small piece of wisdom gave me the freedom to live my own life. To turn up the radio and dance in the middle of dinner, to grab the flashlights an go ghost hunting way past bedtime, to spend that precious half hour sketching.
From this came fresh new ideas, two businesses, a much happier family, and a feeling of accomplishment at the end of the day, rather than the anxiety that used to build thinking about the next day.
How am I going to live my life today? I am going to go to work and put a gorgeous faux finish on my clients ceiling, I am going to help my mother train her deaf dog, I am going to visit my 87 year old neighbor, and I am going to take a walk with my wonderful husband. If he is busy, I am going to go by myself. Thinking time. We all need it. We all deserve it. It is a critical component in "living your own life". After all, If you never give yourself time to think, let your mind wander, listen to great music, or take a "worm walk", how will you ever get anything done?
From a Former Sufferer of Panic and Anxiety, this new way of thinking has changed every aspect of my life. I am free "To Live My Own Life"