Disadvantages of Being Single

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Well, there really is no right or wrong answer to this question. Some people simply enjoy the single life....free from having to check in, can go wherever they want and do whatever they want. Other people are resigned to the single life because they simply cannot find someone that they are willing to date. Whatever category you fall into, there are however some clear disadvantages to being single.

1. Holidays
Come Christmas time (or whatever Holiday you celebrate) statistics have shown that people flock to the online dating sites in droves. It is human nature to want to spend time with others and coming from personal experience, there is nothing worse than having to spend the holidays alone and single. If we take this one step further....take any given Friday night. Most people would rather spend time with that special someone than they would moping around the house by themselves. If you are single during any holiday or event outside of work, chances are you are flying solo for the time being.

2. No sex/physical contact
Unless you are into hooking up with random people (of which I don't advise).....chances are that if you are a female, your best friend on any given night is a guy by the name of B.O.B. Chances are that if you are a guy, well you get the idea...

3. Flying solo
Ever go out as a "third wheel" with some friends? Sucks, doesn't it? Especially when the couple you are with are holding hands and getting intimate. In fact, no matter where you go or what you do you are still by yourself, unless you bring a friend along. Even if your friends try to be mindful of the fact that you are single, awkward moments can and will occur.

4. No financial support
I'm not advocating relying upon your boyfriend/girlfriend for financial support, but in a pinch, they can come in very handy. A friend of mine lost his job and had to move out of the apartment he was living in. Unemployment ran out in a matter of a few weeks and if it wasn't for his girlfriend who offered to let him move in with her, he would be out on the street.

5. Happiness
Studies have shown that human beings are most happy when involved in some sort of a relationship. I cannot quantify exactly what percentage of the population this holds true for, but from personal experience I can tell you that every single person that I know has been somewhat of a miserable wreck while they are single. After they meet that special someone, it's not hard to notice the instant change in their personalities and demeanor. I used to work for a 60 year old single man. He was the VP of the company and had a successful career. There was only one small problem.....this guy was the most miserable bastard I have ever known in my life. The grimace on his face in the morning could melt through 5″ thick steel plates. He signed up for an online dating service (eHarmony) and after a few weeks met a beautiful young lady, 10 years his junior.

Then it started....

Mr. Hyde became Dr. Jeckle right in front of my own two eyes. My office was right next door to his, and every morning at 8am he would call his girlfriend as she was just waking up. The conversation went something as follows:

"Hello lovey dovey, how are you beautiful, I miss you!!"
I can't wait to see my little sweet-tums tonight!!
No you hang up first....No, I'm not going to hang up first, YOU hang up first...."

(OK, this is a clear advantage to being single.....your co-workers don't have to listen to the sappy lovey dovey chit chat over the telephone).

They have been dating now for 3 years and are set to get married in August. The miserable SOB wretch of a VP that I used to work for... is now one of the nicest, kindest people I have ever known in my life. All because of a woman.

He later admitted to me that for the 5 years that he was single, he felt completely miserable and out of touch with reality. It wasn't until he met his girlfriend that he actually realized how much more life has to offer. His particular situation was made even more complicated because he was divorced. Instead of getting back out there, he chose to shut himself off from the "real world" and concentrate solely on work. Divorced people are especially susceptible to this kind of behavior and if you happen to know one, I would advise you to try to help them get back into the dating scene when they feel they are ready.

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This article was published on 2010/03/30
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